In countries such as the United States, it has been a norm for teenagers to leave home once they are in college. But in other countries like the Philippines, children can stay with their parents even long after the kids have married and they have families of their own. Parents have become so attached to their children so much that they may suffer from once their kids settle on their own as they feel that their children no longer need them. Meanwhile, kids can also suffer from if they have grown accustomed to having their parents or siblings with them all the time that they are not used to living on their own.

Both adults and kids can suffer from when they experience the following:

  • Constant anxiety when a person is separate from the person he is attached to
  • Constant worry that he might lose the person who he is attached to due to a particular event
  • Recurring worry that he might get separated ultimately from the person he is attached to
  • Exaggerated fear that a person would be alone without the person he is attached to
  • Constant refusal to sleep without being near to the person he is attached to
  • Repeating nightmares having to do with separation

is indeed very real as a research from the US Comorbodity Survey indicated that there are about 4.1% children and 6.6% adults who suffer from . Most of them suffered from this condition in childhood that have been carried into adulthood but there were also some who experienced when they were already adults.

Approximately one-third of the respondents who were classified as childhood cases (36.1%) had an illness that persisted into adulthood, although the majority classified as adult cases (77.5%) had first onset in adulthood.

As an example, when my wife went to college, she lived in a dormitory because she had evening classes that made it difficult for her to go home on weekdays. As she was very close with her parents, she became so sad that she had to leave home to the point that she couldn’t pay attention in class and she cried every night until she was able to sleep. She kept having persistent thoughts of her parents dying and leaving her alone. She kept looking forward for weekends where she can go home and be with them.

In addition, her parents, decided to pay for her monthly rent so, that they wouldn’t get worried about her. They, especially her mother, constantly worried about her getting lost, kidnapped or raped when she was still living at home. And only when she arrives at home did her mother feel relieved but instead of showing it, she reprimanded my wife each and every time she came home late.

Due to what happened to my wife in her teens overall, she developed anxiety disorders such as social anxiety disorder and . Unfortunately, these were not addressed properly and so, in 2006, my wife became sick with schizo-affective disorder where symptoms include depression and psychosis. One of the problems she faced was getting out of the house because back then, she was having many visual and auditory solutions that bothered very much that all she wanted to do was to go home each time her parents forced her to go out in public.

Through the help of Panic-Stopper Psycho-Cybernetics, my wife realized that she’s been having all sorts of anxiety disorders due to her distorted self-image. She reacted to her experiences as well as what people say about her in a negative manner to the point that she realized that she was harming herself as well as others. She realized now that in order for her to be truly happy, she needed to create an adequate, realistic self-image for herself. Once she learned a lot about herself, she implemented actions to capitalize on her strengths and improve on her areas of weakness.

Now, my wife is doing better. She’s leading a full, normal, healthy life. And I know that you can too.

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